Together alone on Vday February 12, 2010

So this weekend is Valentines Day, and I will be alone. Always alone on this day. Sounds depressing, but really I’m okay with it. And I think that is because I am surrounded by so many that I love, and who love me back, that affections from a lover just aren’t needed. Heck yes, it would be nice. But being single, and being surrounded by my beautiful caring single girlfriends, I still am overcame with the sense of love. Although we are all alone, we are all alone together. And isn’t that what this day is about, celebrating love with those around you? So for now that is good enough for me.

But ladies (and you too gentlemen if you’re reading) I want to share this love story with you.

It’s a Tom’s shoes love story. If you don’t know about Toms shoes, and you should, check out their site here (http://www.tomsshoes.com/default.asp). This love story is about a couple that met because she noticed his shoes, complimented them, and BOOM they are getting married now. They are just so cute. Stories like this give me hope. This is real life, and love does just sneak up on you. It’s not like in the movies where unrealistic things happen that tie two characters together and we see where it is going from the start. No, sometimes all it takes is some shoes.

Sara and Jordan<3

READ the whole story here: http://www.tomsshoesblog.com/http:/www.tomsshoesblog.com/tell-us-your-toms-love-story

So message to everyone (myself included). Stop looking for it! Love will find it’s way to all of us. I know days such as Vday makes you want it more then ever, but know cupid will get you. Take Sara and Jordan unplanned love story for example. That could be you, that could be me! So appreciate the love ones in your life at this moment, and take pleasure knowing your happily-ever after could come any day, maybe even tomorrow.

Someday You Will Be Loved- Death Cab for Cutie

Plan B February 11, 2010

Singles make “back up” plans out of fear.

She Says- Howie Day

Singles everywhere, share one fear. Being alone forever. It is this exact fear that has some singles turning to close friends of the opposite sex “If both of us aren’t married by the time we turn 40, let’s marry each other.  It’s called the back up plan. Twenty-somethings took to this notion after the popular movie My Best Friends Wedding, and television show Friends characters came up with their own “back up” deals. But is it really such a bad idea?

A year or so ago a friend and I jokingly made a similar agreement, as we watched most of our friends around us enter into serious relationships.  Do I think we will get married? I sure hope not, (no offense Stefani). But it’s nice to have. Kinda like flood insurance, you pray to God you never have to use it, but you don’t want to wake up one day regretting not having it. I think a man named James says it best in an interview with the New Yorker when he says “As far as I see it, a backup takes away some of the worry. If you’re not scared of being alone, then you won’t go rushing into something simply to avoid that situation. I think maybe it’s like religion: If you believe in heaven, then you are no longer scared of death. It’s a safety net for life.”

Watch this video clip on “Back Ups”:

I’m curious as to what guys think about the whole situation? I know that guys are more prone to date around and worry about settling down until later on in life. Do guys actually like having back up plans or is it just something that you all agree too so your good girl friend shuts up and stops worrying so much about her future?  Some say that at the base of good marriages are great friendships. But could a friendship and a back up plan really make a beneficial marriage? What do you guys think?

Information for this blog came from: http://nymag.com/nymetro/nightlife/sex/columns/mating/12823/