Plan B

Singles make “back up” plans out of fear.

She Says- Howie Day

Singles everywhere, share one fear. Being alone forever. It is this exact fear that has some singles turning to close friends of the opposite sex “If both of us aren’t married by the time we turn 40, let’s marry each other.  It’s called the back up plan. Twenty-somethings took to this notion after the popular movie My Best Friends Wedding, and television show Friends characters came up with their own “back up” deals. But is it really such a bad idea?

A year or so ago a friend and I jokingly made a similar agreement, as we watched most of our friends around us enter into serious relationships.  Do I think we will get married? I sure hope not, (no offense Stefani). But it’s nice to have. Kinda like flood insurance, you pray to God you never have to use it, but you don’t want to wake up one day regretting not having it. I think a man named James says it best in an interview with the New Yorker when he says “As far as I see it, a backup takes away some of the worry. If you’re not scared of being alone, then you won’t go rushing into something simply to avoid that situation. I think maybe it’s like religion: If you believe in heaven, then you are no longer scared of death. It’s a safety net for life.”

Watch this video clip on “Back Ups”:

I’m curious as to what guys think about the whole situation? I know that guys are more prone to date around and worry about settling down until later on in life. Do guys actually like having back up plans or is it just something that you all agree too so your good girl friend shuts up and stops worrying so much about her future?  Some say that at the base of good marriages are great friendships. But could a friendship and a back up plan really make a beneficial marriage? What do you guys think?

Information for this blog came from: http://nymag.com/nymetro/nightlife/sex/columns/mating/12823/